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YesList vs Sexionnaire: which fits your couple?
Last reviewed: September 2026
Sexionnaire and YesList are both built around answering privately and comparing only what lines up. Sexionnaire does this as a single long, open-source questionnaire - often over an hour to complete - with an option to compare anonymously or openly afterward. YesList spreads the same idea across an ongoing app you can pick up and put down. Here's how the two compare.
What Sexionnaire offers
Sexionnaire is a free, open-source questionnaire covering a wide range of topics, designed to be worked through start to finish and then compared with a partner either anonymously or transparently. For its current scope and how comparisons work, check sexionnaire.com directly.
Where YesList is different
YesList doesn't ask for one long sitting. You answer at whatever pace suits you - a handful of items today, more next week - and matches appear the moment you and your partner have both said yes to the same thing, rather than waiting for a full questionnaire pass from both sides.
Free vs. paid
YesList is free to use. Sexionnaire is also free and open-source - check their site directly for anything that may have changed since this comparison was last reviewed.
Privacy and what your partner can see
On YesList, your partner only ever sees the items you both independently marked yes to. Everything else - a no, a maybe, or something unanswered - stays private to you. For details on how any other site stores your answers, read that site's own privacy policy directly.
Getting started with your partner
To get started on YesList, each of you creates a free account and links to the other. From there you both answer independently, at your own pace, and matches appear as they happen - no long sitting required.
See how YesList compares elsewhere
For more on the private, mutual-match approach YesList is built on, see our guide on sex surveys for couples. Also comparing Comparekink or CoupleSexplorer? See how each stacks up, or try YesList's own free taster quiz - no account needed.
Frequently asked
Is YesList like Sexionnaire?
Both let partners answer privately and compare results. Sexionnaire is a long, open-source questionnaire meant to be worked through in one extended sitting; YesList is a lighter, ongoing app you can answer a few items at a time. Check Sexionnaire's own site for its current details.
Is YesList free?
Yes, YesList is free to use.
How long does YesList take?
There's no fixed length - you answer at your own pace, a few items or many, and can come back any time rather than finishing one long questionnaire in a single sitting.
What can my partner see?
Your partner only ever sees items you both independently marked yes. A no or a maybe stays private and is never shown to them.
Do we need an account?
Yes, each partner creates a free YesList account and links to the other so matches update automatically as you both keep answering.