Intercourse - 21 questions
Things to try in bed with your partner, rated yes, no, or maybe
Last reviewed: September 2026
Intercourse is a 21-question category covering the parts of sex that aren't about position or setting - pacing, focus, spontaneity, and how you communicate with each other in the moment. You and your partner rate each question privately, and a match only appears once you've both said yes to the same one.
What's in the Intercourse category
Expect questions about hands-on pleasure focus, exploring multiple orgasms, spontaneous or uninhibited moments, talking to each other during sex, sharing intimate media together, and other mutual-pleasure techniques. It's the category most directly about the experience of sex itself, rather than a position, a setting, or what leads up to it.
Why this category rewards specificity
A lot of what shapes intercourse - pace, focus, whether you want more talking or less - is genuinely hard to bring up mid-moment without breaking the mood, and just as hard to raise cold afterward. Splitting it into specific, separately-rated questions means you can flag interest in something like talking more openly during sex without that turning into an on-the-spot conversation you weren't ready to have.
It also surfaces things that are easy to assume rather than confirm - one partner might assume the other isn't interested in something simply because it's never come up, when the truth is neither of you has ever actually asked.
Talking about your matches
Because this category deals with things that happen in real time, it helps to talk through a match before you're in the moment rather than during it - agreeing in advance on a cue or a pace makes it much easier to actually follow through once you're there. Treat a match as permission to bring something up out loud, not an instruction to nail it perfectly the first time.
A maybe here is common and worth respecting either direction - some of these preferences genuinely depend on mood, timing, or how a specific moment feels, more than a fixed answer.
Where to go next
Intercourse pairs closely with Positions and Oral, and with Sex Toys if you're curious whether an accessory might fit into something you already matched on here. See the full question library, or try the free taster quiz for a sample from every category, no account required. For more on the format itself, see our guide on sex surveys for couples.
Frequently asked questions
What does the Intercourse category cover?
21 questions about pacing, focus, spontaneity, communication during sex, and sharing intimate media - the parts of sex itself beyond position or setting, which have their own categories.
How is this different from the Positions category?
Positions is about specific physical positions. Intercourse is about everything around that - pace, focus, talking during sex, spontaneity - the things that shape an experience regardless of position.
Is "talking during sex" a common thing to match on?
It's common for one partner to be interested and the other unsure, which is exactly the kind of preference this format is built to surface without either of you having to bring it up mid-moment.
What if we match on something that requires more communication to actually do well?
That's normal for this category especially - a mutual yes tells you there's interest, but talking through specifics (pace, cues, what feels good) before or during is still worth doing.